Didn't see that coming!

When life surprises you with unexpected twists and turns, it is ' for me' often best to follow the crumbs and see where they go.

October 2019 lead me to Kenya.

I was a married woman to a wonderful man whom I had been separated from for six months.  My marriage of 20 years had finally been seen for what it was. A perfect friendship built from what once was a great love. We had tried, but it was in vain, who we were was not who we are now. I suppose that is how life is to be. We must always be evolving, always finding a truer version of ourselves.. We have two amazing sons and a mutual respect and love for one another that is honest and pure. He is my best friend and always a place I know I can turn to for advice, as he knows I am the same for him.

So I left for Kenya with a free soul and wandering heart.

Ever heard the saying ' never saw that coming?' Yup! that was me when I first met Tiz.
Mom and I had just finished a safari in the Massai Mara  and Amboseli  and as luck would have it a long time friend invited us to a camp she was running in the mountains of Kenya.

What a perfect way to end mom's last few days in Kenya on a walking safari in the Mathew Ranges.  We jumped at the chance and off we went.

When I first met Tiz it was in a small town called Nanyuki.  He was introduced to us by my friend and was to be our guide for the next few days.
To be honest I didn't think much of Tiz when I first met him, I later found out, he didn't think much of me either, lol, but something happened on the long drive to the camp. Ah yes! that something..... I am not sure what it was, but he made me laugh and I intern made him laugh. The drive up was filled with laughter and a lighting of my soul. He looked different to me in just a few hours, the glances at one another became longer, the spark brightening    with every smile.  I recall asking his age on the drive up, 29 he said.
He was 21 years younger than me and though that perhaps should have been a deterent for me, it wasn't.
I never gave it any more thought after that, perhaps I was being selfish and didn't want to worry about things that didn't matter in the moment in favour of enjoying the moment. By the time I left Kenya, Tiz and I had something, what exactly we didn't know but it was something that neither of us were willing to let go of. 

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As I sit and type this well over a year later, it with the purest honesty that I say life has a funny way of putting you exactly where you need to.
Tiz came to Canada.


We are now a couple living the heck out of life.
He makes me laugh and my soul sparks every time he smiles my way. My entire family has met him, including my now Ex husband. ( we actually all live on the same property, different houses) Seems odd? meh, that is your problem, not mine.

it was a process for sure, meeting the boys took longer and had to be done on their time line, not ours, it took sometime to find acceptance. I do believe that my strong bond with my Ex helped the boys, we kept our family solid and safe.  

Tiz and I have had to endure more than what most couples have to go through in years. The challenges of finding our place in one another lives, the cheeky comments on our age difference, the process of him becoming a resident of Canada, Covid restrictions forcing us to cancel our big dream trips overseas, to living in a camper, then a travel trailer and finally now a house.
When you are never apart you learn one another quirks quickly, lol.

I could write a book about the past year and every reader would be glued to it flipping the pages faster than their eyes can process.
To say it's been an adventure is an understatement.

I do not know where the future lies, we never do , do we? Always there is a crumb to follow, but what I do know is as long as I am true to myself and follow my life motto-

Love more than hate
Give more than take
Know the difference between right and wrong
Leave the world a better place than when I arrived in it

​Then I am living life right.  

Monique

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